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On Asking For Help

[Sent: November 12, 2022]

Asking for Help "You should know this.” This statement from my fourth grade teacher sunk lower than the smooshed banana at the bottom of my backpack. The fluorescent lights shone above me and casted the colour of shame all the way back to my desk. For minutes I would sit there staring at the page, contemplating how I ended up so behind. The minutes morphed into days, the days turned into years, and suddenly I found myself plopped under similar fluorescent lights at a new job still staring at what is now a computer screen, fighting back tears. “I could ask for help, but I should know this.” I find myself in this place where as an adult, I am always learning and understanding how to do more. As an artist, there are many books, podcasts, and classes to gain knowledge on how to write grants, create an artist resume, get more subscribers, organize your work and time, publish a book, cool effects on Premiere Pro. Before all of that there’s actually making the art, of course.

From the beginnings of Unsociably High, we’ve wanted to be this do it yourself band and I think I got wrapped up in thinking that we would do EVERYTHING ourselves and not ask for help. There was this sense of pride that I was holding onto and at the same time the exact fears of asking for help that I once had. I’ve been reading this book called, “Make Your Art No Matter What” by Beth Pickens and there’s a part that talks about Asking For Help. Reading this book helped me feel inspired to step out of my comfort zone and be open to the idea of asking for help. At our last admin meeting, we talked about areas in which we may need some assistance.

  • Photoshoots: Although it’s fun to come up with a concept, actually executing them, editing them, posting them, is a lot of work. I asked my film student friend for help and she asked me to make a mood board so I got high and made several mood boards.

  • Promotion: We had dinner with some friends the other night I was honest about having trouble finding the time and resources to promote all of the things that we do. The friend explained that one of their friends actually has a spreadsheet with media outlet contacts, which I thought was an amazing idea. I made one for us and hope to keep adding to it.

It's okay to not know everything and it's safe to ask for help.

Mark It In Your Calendar

Craft Show The Glebe Community Center November 19, 20, 26, 27 - 10:00am - 5:00 pm Brendon will be selling his guitar string jewellery with a ton of different artisans. It’s a great place to support local artists, which is especially great to do for the holiday season :) Free Entry

Live Performance Avant Garde Bar Unsociably High & The Boo Radley Project Saturday, December 3rd at 8:30 p.m. to 12:00 a.m. $15 at the door Patreon We’re still doing free t-shirts for those who sign up to our Patreon :) This month you will find… Band Practice (by the campfire) Trash Tracks Jewellery Process Podcast Incase You Missd it What Happened In October

Thank you so much to our patrons for being on this journey with us!

*kiss sound* *kiss sound* Tiffany Unsociably High

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